You grow up being taught morals by dozens of people. You learn how to share, you learn chivalry, good deeds with no rewards, all the little things you're supposed to apply to your adulthood. I don't think a single person ever taught any of us how to be selfish, and how sometimes it is such a good thing. (At least not purposefully) But as we grow, we pick up on the right and wrong things to do and the right and the wrong way to behave. We develop filters, we start closing our mouths in hope to follow the Golden Rule because it's courteous.
It's perfectly okay to be selfish whenever you feel like it. I know that may sound pretentious, but even over the last few weeks I've learned that our individual selves count as people too. You're allowed to be kind to yourself if it means doing something that feels wrong. Cutting out the toxic people in your life can be so stressful and intimidating. Cutting out the people who were there for you, but growing from them can be even worse. Just when you think everything is okay, it's easy to slip into the mentality that the world is burning underneath you. I promise you that it's worth it to be selfish if it means self development. Being focused on such materialistic things will only drag you down in the future. We pin ourselves to what we look like, the clothes we wear, the cars we drive and our greatest accomplishments. But what does any of that matter if you aren't truly happy with yourself?
Doing the right thing feels so wrong half the time- not speaking up about your opinion makes your stomach sick. So why do you put yourself through that? Your health and well being matter so much more than you make it out to be. Don't suppress your feelings just to salvage someone else's. Stay strong in what you believe in, how it makes you feel, and the way that you want to feel in the future.
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